"It’s not all bad. Heightened self-consciousness, apartness, an inability to join in, physical shame and self-loathing—they are not all bad. Those devils have been my angels. Without them I would never have disappeared into language, literature, the mind, laughter and all the mad intensities that made and unmade me." - Stephen Fry
The key phrase here is “Those devils have been my angels.” The greatest factor that helped me dive into maturity, compressed in an enlightening string of words.